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The poet Rumi reminds us, "The moon stays bright if it does not avoid the night." It is from moonlight consciousness that I view my work, a reflective and softened light that does not avoid, but is informed by darker emotions.These emotions are captured in images, patterns of the psyche, abstractly named as depression, anxiety, fear, hurt, rejection. They are healed by attention and care for the movements of the psyche/soul in inner and outer life. I attend to these movements with you. Together we care for the soul's desire, the psyche creating images each moment of our living. We ask what the soul or psyche wants of us from time to time however painfully it may call upon us.

Samuel Beckett, the playwright, once wrote, "Fail. Try again. Fail better."This is a most practical approach - far more practical than the oft repeated attempts to bolster the ego's control over our struggles. Sometimes we are "saved" by our failures from so called successes that arrest the deeper inquiry into our living. I invite you into such an "insearching" with all its relational implications.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
Since you are considering psychotherapy as an individual or couple, there are many choices before you. You will have certain expectations for a potential therapist. You will want to find someone you feel is a “good fit.” Although I believe you would best know this in experiencing an actual session with a potential therapist, the following may be helpful in providing a bridge to my work.

As a certified Jungian analyst and licensed Marriage Family Therapist, I work from a depth perspective in both my individual and couples work. My work might be considered to be a depth psycho-spiritual form of psychotherapy grounded in my training as a Jungian psychoanalyst. Unlike many popular and pragmatic oriented approaches, a depth approach also includes attention to unconscious processes believing that adjusting, even changing, the ego orientation is not enough. Hence the attention to dreams, day dreams, symptoms, intuitions and experiences on the margins of our existence. This is an important and unique distinction from many forms of therapy that, of course, does not undervalue our conscious ego development as well. A depth approach attempts to provide lasting changes by understanding the underlying sources of potential change and healing.

As an ordained Episcopal priest, I also honor your particular religious tradition and spiritual quest. You are welcome with whatever your concerns are and we will decide together if we are a good fit in working together. I bring a depth perspective to my own theological training and work. There are legitimate religious concerns that may also have psychological issues embedded in them as a result of life's inevitable issues such as anxiety, depression, gender, sexual identity, vocation and careers, love and romance, marriage and couple concerns and interpersonal relationships. These and other concrete issues fall under the perview of depth psychology.

I have also been the provost and faculty of a graduate school in depth psychology for many years - Pacifica Graduate Institute in Santa Barbara. I am  a member of the C.G. Jung Institute of San Francisco and International Association Analytical Psychologists and California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists and a Research Psychoanalyst with the California Medical Board. While these are merely outer credentials, they reflect my years of inner searching and education that I bring to my work as a depth psychotherapist and Jungian analyst.

What does a depth perspective mean for psychotherapy? I start with where you are, your understandings, your story. I assume that lasting change requires the slow patient effort of helping you discover what changes will further your own development. I look for those experiences you are having that will support your efforts. Your dreams, personal interactions and at times more than rational hunches suggest what is being required of you at a particular time. Together we look to the margins of awareness for helpful insights.

A depth perspective assumes you have plenty of access to self-help books, advice from friends and strangers alike. Hence I’m not interested in "tacking" something on to your personality that you need to constantly shore up. While I value a strong well-developed ego, I am interested in those changes that will be lasting for you, integrated into your life, arising from within and sometimes discovered from without. 

My intention is to stay with you during those hard times when you may encounter frustration, and discouragement as you revise the assumptions beneath your life's story. Together we work to find another way forward in a process that has the potential of being immensely rewarding and lasting. Change and even deep transformation become possible as the process unfolds.

I work in a relational, interpersonal style while honoring the more than personal. I begin with your beginnings - the first words of "Chapter One" in your story. As mentioned, I work with both conscious and unconscious material such as dreams, daydreams, fantasies, intuitions, various symptoms - more than what we may think we know about ourselves. Unexpectedly, we gain insight into those obstacles that impede our intended path. Together we listen into those difficulties for new directions emerging from the depths of ongoing struggles.

It's my desire to help you discover the resources, inner and outer, that are available to help you. My experience, training, and education are available to you as one, among many, of those guiding resources.

Perhaps you are now open to telling your story.

I'm ready to hear it. 


Charles Asher         
(805-705-2451)

     


                                                                                       

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